tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post5080468921251395852..comments2024-03-29T02:30:24.590+11:00Comments on eclectica: Death Cafekyliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-40184999903729054522022-08-26T14:53:17.763+10:002022-08-26T14:53:17.763+10:00I think you're right. We are never really goin...I think you're right. We are never really going to be ready but if some of the practical things have been arranged or discussed, it has to help a little bitkyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-10980825470920527962022-08-22T02:51:03.048+10:002022-08-22T02:51:03.048+10:00Half my comments go in my spam folder too, well no...Half my comments go in my spam folder too, well not actually in one it just says they aren't published, and I don't realise it! <br /><br />I've never heard of death cafe's either. Sometimes I feel that however much you try to prepare for your death or someone else's, when the times you never feel you've prepared enough or in the right way. LL Cool Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916666100971008775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-6526360615472737402022-08-15T05:44:55.394+10:002022-08-15T05:44:55.394+10:00I mean giving Jenny all my dozens of passwords, fi...I mean giving Jenny all my dozens of passwords, filing (physical) documents in such a way she can find them, showing her where to find things on my computer etc. I couldn't care less what send-off I have, Jenny can do whatever she wants! Right now, I have no need of care but I might do at some later date.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-44815851681440970982022-08-14T12:20:22.179+10:002022-08-14T12:20:22.179+10:00Incapable of considering your end of life? In what...Incapable of considering your end of life? In what way?<br />What will happen to your remains? What kind of send off do you want? More importantly, how do you want to be cared for?<br />kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17733888108530605722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-44724564899546221452022-08-14T03:49:37.029+10:002022-08-14T03:49:37.029+10:00I didn't see that story and will have to inves...I didn't see that story and will have to investigate. Thank you.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-84214980268320920122022-08-13T23:20:44.110+10:002022-08-13T23:20:44.110+10:00I'd never heard of death cafes, but I see ther...I'd never heard of death cafes, but I see there's one in Belfast. I don't feel the need to try it out right now, but it's good to know about it should the need arise. I'm totally incapable of planning for my end-of-life, and Jenny doesn't seem bothered, but if I suddenly dropped dead she would probably have a hard time sorting out whatever I leave behind.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-158727145863609612022-08-13T20:41:21.462+10:002022-08-13T20:41:21.462+10:00yes, it's a lot of admin right when we are lea...yes, it's a lot of admin right when we are least capable of it. There should be trained people and specific phone lines for grief affected people. kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-23133992460404464152022-08-13T20:02:05.903+10:002022-08-13T20:02:05.903+10:00An acquaintance of mine in Braidwood is heavily in...An acquaintance of mine in Braidwood is heavily involved in setting up Tender Funerals in Canberra and has previously advertised a death cafe in your neck of the woods. Did you see the Australian Story about Tender?<br />There is really a lot to know and I suspect that knowing stuff helps free us from logistics to deak with emotions. Thats what Scarlet is saying, I thinkkyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-63240022110739708992022-08-13T19:58:24.439+10:002022-08-13T19:58:24.439+10:00yes, it was. I would have found it on my next spam...yes, it was. I would have found it on my next spam check but that may have been weeks away!kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-1803323564208364662022-08-13T19:45:56.596+10:002022-08-13T19:45:56.596+10:00Is my first comment in your spam folder?Is my first comment in your spam folder?Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-15705182959118513712022-08-13T19:37:59.988+10:002022-08-13T19:37:59.988+10:00That you can never be prepared! You won't be y...That you can never be prepared! You won't be yourself when grief hits you - all that flipping admin comes at the wrong time and the authorities expect you to get on with it as though nothing has happened - they are not all sympathetic - and registering the death feels like a race against time. Sorting out funerals - crikey that is hard - and you have to be on the phone an awful lot of the time when all you want to do is hide away.<br />Sx Ms Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-59280536149810539912022-08-13T19:34:10.678+10:002022-08-13T19:34:10.678+10:00I found her rude but in that polite way. I dunno, ...I found her rude but in that polite way. I dunno, who goes and offers a copy of their probably boring book to a specialist in the subject?kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-20008622389013540012022-08-13T19:33:05.956+10:002022-08-13T19:33:05.956+10:00Karen was very strong on having documentation, inc...Karen was very strong on having documentation, including instructions for what kind of care we want if we are unable to express it. She's right of course, even if we know what a person wants, there are legal protections in placekyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-42669617210148730612022-08-13T19:30:26.870+10:002022-08-13T19:30:26.870+10:00They started in the UK in 2011, I think it was. Wh...They started in the UK in 2011, I think it was. What would be one thing you would want to tell people about death/ funerals etckyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-7815626427181810302022-08-13T19:29:03.578+10:002022-08-13T19:29:03.578+10:00Even people who are happy to think about death mig...Even people who are happy to think about death might not go to a cafe but I quite like meeting people in that kind of setting. What was the thesis about?<br />Ingrid was very polite and all that but yes, unaware.kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-48781121529914952422022-08-12T01:37:13.966+10:002022-08-12T01:37:13.966+10:00Yes, I've heard of these and was curious but n...Yes, I've heard of these and was curious but nothing out here on the Edge of that ilk. boy that woman sounded rude tho.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-82849085127095390402022-08-11T22:21:13.917+10:002022-08-11T22:21:13.917+10:00I've never heard of Death Cafes, but I've ...I've never heard of Death Cafes, but I've googled it and there are lots of them in the UK, and a few in my home town. Death has been a taboo subject for decades. None of us like to dwell in it but it's going to happen and it's much better for our loved ones to know exactly how we would like to depart this mortal coil.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10502031456581056874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-67414868676084855132022-08-11T20:09:40.174+10:002022-08-11T20:09:40.174+10:00I've not heard about Death Cafes either - they...I've not heard about Death Cafes either - they sound like a very good idea - I wish I had been more prepared when my parents died.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-6281590846424347682022-08-11T18:32:55.280+10:002022-08-11T18:32:55.280+10:00Very interesting Kylie. A death cafe has been oper...Very interesting Kylie. A death cafe has been operating in the bigger town 50km from us, but I never went there. Not that I would be afraid of talking about death. It was a critical part of my thesis.<br /><br />There's always an Ingrid. They are like bulldozers. I figure they don't mean to be annoying, they are just very unaware people.Dr Mad Fishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10274692672575145183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-52889817877070652872022-08-11T17:23:45.923+10:002022-08-11T17:23:45.923+10:00What a brilliant idea. It is something I have nev...What a brilliant idea. It is something I have never heard of, and I resent the fact that death (which comes to us all) is draped in mystery and often fear.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-58156888942326861972022-08-11T15:23:19.418+10:002022-08-11T15:23:19.418+10:00Yes, I'm sure draping would be a standard prac...Yes, I'm sure draping would be a standard practice. The book was about her husbands end of life. I bet she managed to work "heaven" in to it a nice number of timeskyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017882226857032208.post-67169451406253510092022-08-11T15:14:23.699+10:002022-08-11T15:14:23.699+10:00I never heard of a death cafe, interesting concept...I never heard of a death cafe, interesting concept. Maybe any person washing an adult would drape as it seems so invasive not to, even if it is not a parent. I do agree with the minister. I wonder what her book was about. Practical Parsimonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08419071209412207674noreply@blogger.com