While Mum has been in hospital, Dad has taken a downturn. He was forgetful and sometimes anxious about weird things; he needed help to navigate to most places, even familiar ones but he was mostly ok.
For some time he has had little appetite but was eating in a way that was almost normal.
I have discovered that dementia is like childhood: just when the carer thinks they understand what to do, something changes.
Last week I was surprised that there was an uneaten meal in Dad's fridge. I know what I have given him and most days I ask what he is eating. By my calculation he was out of food and yet, here was a full meal.
I had given him a large container of food and told him to eat half one day and half the next but what he had done was eat half, then half of half, then half of that. The quantity he ate each day was shrinking rapidly.
Aren't you hungry? I asked. "Well a bit more would have been nice"
It eventually became apparent that he was anxious about running out so decided to save some.
Apart from the fact I have supplied food for weeks now, he was unable to understand that the untouched food he was "saving" was as useful as nothing at all.
I have figured out that the favourites are divided and divided again while the "less favourites" languish.
The first Meals on Wheels delivery was today. I wonder how those will be prioritised.
One thing he always has is ginger beer, I can tell he drinks a lot of it by the number of empty bottles. On Sunday we went to the shop to get bread but we had to stop in the drink aisle. There were no 1.25 litre bottles of ginger beer so I suggested a six pack of cans. Dad looked disgusted and agreed reluctantly.
"Those big bottles are just. so. convenient. I'm so disappointed"
Better luck next time, Dad