This week I read a tiny snippet in a magazine which I think should be repeated loudly and often. It said something like this:
"When someone criticises they are just externalising something that they feel about themselves. Someone has hurt them and it temporarily makes them feel better to say something bad about someone else." and the clincher: "Try not to take it personally"
Criticism is damaging and hurtful and I don't think any of us can easily ignore it but maybe it would help if we were able to view a criticism of us as evidence of another's pain.
To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
Elbert Hubbard1856—1915
Kylie,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the kind words. But you must be confusing me with someone else. I generally commit the early hours of weekend mornings and after 9:30pm weeknights to blogging.
M.
Not at all, I just happened by your comments at gig's....case in point :)
ReplyDeleteWow, you have been busy. Nice little snippets. G'Day to ya, and happy week!
ReplyDeleteYes, I like this. I know it's true because when I find myself being critical it's ALWAYS coming from bad feelings within myself. An excellent thing to be mindful of.
ReplyDeleteKylie,
ReplyDeleteHow can all this be true when you feel so good afterwards! Probably is right though especially if the verbaliser sounds like a screeching cockatoo.
I wonder if I can leave an anonymous comment....
ReplyDeleteJust seeing if it works....
PJ
When I criticise someone it is almost always because I am overtired and I externalise my frustration with myself by being surly and uncommunicative. The downside is that that after I have gotten out of the funk; the next two or three days are spent coping with a lot of angst and contrition for the hurt that I have caused a loved one. After all it is usually the people you love the most that cop the criticism.
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Dear Kylie,
ReplyDeletehope you and family having a beautiful day!
BTW where is those dresses?
I was waiting to see them!!!
♥ & ((hugs))
bindi
Okay. I'll say this about that...whatcho talkin' about b****. Okay, I'll knock it off. Yup, probably true. Ugh. I'll be better tomorrow!
ReplyDeleteHey honey, it's Robyn's birthday. Please stop by the Cafe and wish her a merry, merry.
Love ya, will be back when time permits!
XO
You are such a kind bitch!
ReplyDeleteLeave it to you to make blogging special.
Have a beautiful Wednesday!
Hey, Thanks for the prayers and support.
ReplyDeleteI am hoping we will have more info on a game plan with her by the end of the day. I'll keep everyone posted.
Hey Kylie,
ReplyDeleteStopped by to say hello, and how are the dresses coming along? I have not started on my quilt yet, hopefully this weekend.
I want to comment on your post, but must think about what I want to say, it has been a rough week, and right now I am "trying not to take it personally", and the criticism wasn't directed at me, but to me in regards to a loved one of mine. So, I am still sorting things out.
Well, I am headed over to the onion for a lemon drop and some more shrimp on the barbie. Join me?
xo, Gig
I don't even eat shrimp, but I'll have one, and a cough drop too.
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