yep, a friend said that to me recently.
i wish i was so noble.
when i give a gift i usually hope it will be appreciated and my hopes for the future of that gift are linked to the degree of effort i went to in choosing and obtaining the gift.
i have to admit that when i buy some plastic kitschy knick-knack for a small child i don't expect it to be cherished forever but if i gave a book, i would hope for it to be read. if i gave a piece of clothing i would hope for it to be worn. if i gave movie tickets i would hope they would be used.
i once gave a watch. i chose it carefully but apparently not carefully enough because it has almost never been worn. i can't demand to see it worn and i have long since realised that there would be no joy in that anyway but i will always have just a slight tinge of disappointment that the gift i chose with care didnt quite fill the bill.
the idea of giving with no concern for the future of the gift is a noble one and a gift given without ego is the best gift of all but when i give with my heart i give a piece of myself and if that gift doesnt somehow engage the imagination or the emotion of the recipient i cant help but take it just a little bit personally