i was in a situation this week where a third party was mentioned and the comment came in hushed tones "she's not a very good housekeeper, you know"
the conversation went on and all kinds of quotes were made, quotes essentially saying that housekeeping is not the be all and end all but truth is, the hush accompanying the comment said otherwise.
it's an interesting thing, this housekeeping business. we justify our failures with the fact that it's harder than it looks but we don't make the same allowances for others.
i dont know if it's just the circles i move in, but i get the distinct impression that a woman could be a world renowned brain surgeon but if she cant keep house......well, she just isnt up to scratch. or maybe i'm projecting?
i wonder what else is so important as to be talked about in such reverential tones?
bad mothering, whatever that might be, would probably do it.
how about for men?
do they fail the masculinity test if they are bad providers?
bad at DIY or forget to take the bin out?
maybe it's the wrong car?
or lack of sporting prowess?
and who is the judge?
women are judged by other women but do men secretly indulge in housekeeping comparisons, too?
are men judged by their peers or by their women? or not at all?