all of my adult life i have known people to talk about sex, there were vague references to drunken fondling, to tiredness and the damper kids can put on things. there have been jokes about getting too much or not enough and laughing explanations of the timing of a child's conception and heaven help anybody who happens to have a sore back but i have never been involved in "Sex and the City" style confessional conversations. never has a girlfriend (or man friend for that matter) talked in detail about stamina or size or personal peccadillos and preferences.
suddenly, in the past year or two that has all changed. i have heard stories of open marriage, of cross dressing, of pole dancing, cyber sex, porn use, fetishes and fantasy. i have heard confessions of affairs and threesomes and shagging whilst a third party slept in the same bed.
i find the whole phenomenon amazing. why are these people telling me these things? (not that i mind, so tell away)
after around twenty years of adulthood are folks looking to expand their horizons?
are they tired of hiding their deepest selves?
has something in me changed to invite comment?
or is society in general changing?