Tuesday, 26 May 2015
a couple of years ago my daughters went to a school dance and one was groped by a boy from her year group. she reported it to me with the comment that it gave her a bit of a shock but it didn't bother her much and she didnt want to let it spoil her night. i told her that what he did was not appropriate and then i decided not to pursue the matter.
fast forwarding a year or thereabouts, the same boy grabbed a much smaller boy in the school toilets and he assaulted the younger boy, first with violence and then with a sexual act.
when i heard about it, i realised that my silence in the attackers earlier "career" had done nobody any favours.
i didn't expect to ever face that situation again but just recently one of my daughters told me about a boy she had seen taking video of girls' legs. i asked her if she wanted to report it or whether she would like me to do it. the conversation meandered over a few days and in the period of our talks she saw the boy surreptitiously take more video after actually asking the girl in question to stand on a desk.
my dear girl had no question left in her mind and made the report. unfortunately she has suffered as all whistle blowers do with accusations that she did the wrong thing: the boy in question was a "nice guy", it was his final year in school, a 20 day suspension was "excessive".
only it turns out that he may have offended on many more than the two occasions he was seen and the police may become involved.
it breaks my heart to see my daughter suffer but i am proud beyond words of her courage and (as i told her) she is now a hero for women everywhere, for all of time.
at May 26, 2015