Tuesday, 6 November 2018

when it all goes tits up

last week my husband and son got into a firestorm of anger and resentment. and hurt. the youngster made his father unwelcome, the older left vowing not to come back. the next day my boy took off as well.
it is a mess that was a long time coming and i wish i could have made something different.

this week i have got myself a hugely infected foot ulcer with doctors orders to go to emergency if it gets worse. i should have known better but i was lulled into a false sense of security by my lovely new orthotics which should have solved the problem. it's nobody's fault, just a case of mistakes on all sides (me, orthotist & podiatrist)

on the up side, there is a lot less washing up with two people gone and a  lot less stress in general. at least for the  moment.....

...the future is another matter.

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  1. I have absolutely nothing to say which will change this awkward & difficult situation. But I do have this comment to make. You and your feet come first, the others will have to sort out their own problems. And now I have a question. Do the father and son having similar personalities. It's just a question...
    All this will pass....
    Alphie

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    1. i don't think their personalities are similar but I will say that sometimes we do the only thing we know

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  2. Take care of yourself first Kylie. My best wishes that your foot heals quickly and the other problems sort themselves out over time.

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  3. I am so sorry, Kyles..
    Praying for you all.. I can only imagine how hard it is..
    ((hugs))

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    1. It's lovely to have you back blogging!
      Thanks for praying, it is all anyone can do

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  4. I'm so sorry to hear of the recent ruckus and result of same, but there is something to be said for peace and quiet. I hope your foot returns to normal quickly. Mrs. RWP is also having foot issues,an infected big toenail (for which she is taking oral antibiotic and soaking daily in epsom salts) and a broken toe from a middle-of-the-night run-in with a wooden box) and wearing an orthopedic shoe (I think that's what it's called) temporarily as prescribed by the podiatrist. They say that misery loves company. I don't mean to make light of your predicament one iota.

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    1. My best wishes to your missus! That's a poem, you know?
      And by the way, this kind of year only happens once in a millennium. You can tell by the way your birthday is on the same date it was on your actual day of arrival on the planet

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  5. Okay, your husband lives with you and son, too? And husband was made to feel unwelcome in his own home? And he left vowing never to come back? I wonder how far your husband got before he realized he lived there. ???

    I have a toe that has a problem. I am supposed to be soaking it, too. But, I have not. I do not fear doctors, except for podiatrists! I am afraid he/she will touch my toes and look at them up close!

    Put your foot up and change the locks on the doors.

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    1. Podiatrists do indeed look closely at toes!
      The podiatrists scalpel is my friend. I hope your foot improves

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  6. I am rather lost for words. However I do agree with the other commenters who say that you should put yourself first.

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    1. These infections frighten me so much I am perfectly happy to put myself first! How you can have sepsis and refer to it lightly amazes me although I know you must be aware of its dangers

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    2. I've had two hospitalisations for sepsis - the first one serious (although I didn't realise how serious at the time) and two for pre-sepsis infection. One person dies in Scotland every four hours of sepsis. Most are caught far too late often because people don't know and don't get medical help. I now know exactly what urosepsis symptoms are like and I don't hesitate to get hospital help.

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  7. I agree that one must take care of oneself first, but it is just hard for someone who has ever been a mother to think in those terms, isn't it?

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    1. I think most mothers put everyone else first but we invest so heavily in our families that "everyone" is also "me"

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  8. These messes are very, very stressful. I hoe some things work out over time.

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    1. I think it may be a good thing in the long term but it will be a long road to get there. Thanks for your wishes, Red

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  9. Oh Kylie. I am so very sorry and hope that your tits (particularly your toe tit) are pointing to the ground again quickly.

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    1. I laid awake waiting for the red line up my foot to recede and it has so I think things are on the up.

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  10. I'm so sorry, kylie, on all fronts. Why is it that some days (weeks, years) are just one hard thing after another? I hope your son and husband reconcile soon, although it sounds like it may take some time to untangle all the threads.

    Yes, take care of your feet. It's something concrete that you can do, no matter what happens with everything else.

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    1. Thanks Jenny!
      concrete is good right now so yea, on with the repair kylie project!

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  11. As others have said, your own physical health is the most important thing, the rest comes second. Glad things seem to be on the up. It's anyone's guess whether your husband and son will heal the rift or not. My own father and I were estranged for a good 20 years until he died. Hopefully your two won't go that far.

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    1. I think there is enough ill feeling at the moment to power a lot of estrangement and the ongoing pain is a concern

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  12. Take care of you Kylie. My observation has been in such situations is that others tangling and spatting is none of my business.
    But that said, it must be so stressful.
    I hope the foot heals and soon :)

    XO
    WWW

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    1. It's getting there!
      I know them both well enough to know I can't change it. I knew my boy would move out soon but it was abrupt, I missed out on those bitter sweet last days with him at home

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  13. I'm sorry for the stress you're under. I hope everything resolves sooner rather than later, especially your foot issues!

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    1. Thanks Jennifer. I do believe the universe is unfolding as it should

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  14. I hope things are better now, and that your foot is healing. Yes, look after yourself - deep breath and carry on.
    Sx

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    1. The foot is good, the rest not so much. We never know what's around the corner, eh?

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