there's quite a bit of wisdom in overused old cliches, that's how they got to be cliches!
this one applies in lots of ways but i want to tell you about a tidbit i read somewhere, sometime.
when somebody is angry and directing their anger at you, you have a few seconds ( i can't remember exactly, maybe eight seconds) to either absorb that anger or let it wash off.
i'm trying to train myself to recognise the anger and make a decision to let it go, before i get caught trying to deal with somebody else's crap.
if i absorb someone's fury it becomes my problem. if i pass it on it becomes a third person's problem. if i'm having a good day and i manage not to pass it on i still have to deal with it. i still have to process it and at the very least it takes energy. at worst it might damage me or my relationships.