in the course of conversation today i said " i dont know him very well"
which got me to wondering, when do we know somebody well?
is it:
when i know how they vote?
when i know their favourite foods?
when i have some success at predicting their behaviour?
is it when i feel as if i know them well?
or when we are comfortable together?
all of the above?
or something else entirely?
I'd say it's when you can predict their behaviour, because that means you know enough about them to have some idea how their mind and emotions work. I think it's also when you've gone through a few significant experiences together and have helped each other and shared something intimate.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't say being comfortable together is the key. You can feel comfortable with someone you don't know at all, simply because you have a similar temperament.
Only God knows the heart of man.
ReplyDeleteWhen you know what color underwear they are wearing.
ReplyDeleteI had something to say but now I'm just laughing at Bob's comment so I'll be back.
ReplyDeleteNeed more coffee!
pink
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't have said you were a pink person- so I don't really know you at all, lol.
ReplyDeleteI think Nick has said it really. I was thinking on similar lines today.
How much do we try to get to know someone well? Don't we always build our little fences and keep a certain distance? Because knowing someone well means getting involved in their life- and how much of ourselves can we keep on giving out without burning ourselves out?
Not pink
ReplyDeleteHummmmmmmmmmm. That is a very interesting question. I agree with Dad, but think he should have said man/woman. "Hi Dad!"
ReplyDeleteDo you ever really know anyone other than yourself?
Great post as always Kyles.
Love you,
Moi
nick,
ReplyDeletei think you are right but i just had to throw in a few options :)
dad,
ReplyDeleteGod knows the heart of man but sometimes people can get pretty close!
bob
ReplyDeletewhat would happen if i knew what colour you were wearing?
megs!
ReplyDeletehe has a tendency to make everything a joke. he's clever like that, keeping us laughing and revealing little :)
cinnamon,
ReplyDeletei'm not really a pink person but sometimes i like a little. and no-one can see it, except if my pants fall down a bit, which they do at times.......
and now you know all about my clothing malfunctions!
oh and cinnamon,
ReplyDeletethe second part of your comment was interesting. i will have to think on it
suze,
ReplyDeletesometimes we dont know ourselves at all :)
megs!
ReplyDeletehe has a tendency to make everything a joke. he's clever like that, keeping us laughing and revealing little
That's me... funny and funny looking
oh my! too much here!!!
ReplyDeletesee if you can follow my brain spill...
baby or fuschia?
yes! kind of like that trailer thing in front of just bob's!!! exactly. you sound so honest. genuine.
also like suze says but only the honest ones...otherwise you never really do.
it's brilliant bob and funny bob - not that other stuff.
...and to think some people say a.d.d. - I just don't get why?!
I'm back, and since I'm home from work and in my jammies, I have no underwear color to report.
ReplyDeleteI suppose it depends on your definition of "well" in this scenario. I have friends that I know quite well (I think!) but sometimes the most normal details of their lives have the power to surprise me.
Anyone here watch Friends? A lot of silly stuff on that show, but I will always remember the episode with the trivia questions. When asked what Chandler did for a living, none of the girls knew the answer. Does that mean they didn't "know" him? That's a pretty big thing not to know the answer to, wouldn't you think? And yet, somehow, it wasn't.
Interesting question Kylie. I'll be thinking about it...
That is truly a good question that needs some thinking from my part, maybe when you feel safe and relaxed with some one...
ReplyDeleteHugs Gunilla in Singapore
Well, Cinnamon has a good point too about not wanting to get too involved in other people's lives when we've got plenty of involvements already. We only have so much energy to give, and unfortunately some people turn out to be sponges rather than watering cans.
ReplyDeleteI'm on my way to the park, but had to stop by to get Miathri's blog address for my darling doctors and techs at Kaiser. I'm on my way there after feeding the ferals because my cast got wet and won't dry. Brand new cast on Monday and it's already being removed!!! I'm trying to decide between neon pink or neon purple. Hummmmmmmmmm. A dilemma. Yes honey, it's the simple stuff that trips me up!!! Oh, and kitties.
ReplyDelete*Suze walks away muttering "I know myself, I know myself, I know myself...* Cross your fingers I see my doctor in the hallway!!! Kyles...I think I'm in love.
XO Happy Friday baby!
Stay off your damn leg!
ReplyDeleteKyles, I spelled Maithri wrong. He'll never notice. He doesn't read my crap!!! Zip your lips!!!
ReplyDeleteBob, knock it off. HI HONEY!! You know I went through hell all night with my ankle, but you know what? This morning I have NO PAIN!!! Don't even ask why because I have no clue. I'm just enjoying myself for the first time in almost two weeks. Cross your fingers this doesn't end. I'm late for the park. Gotta go. Yes, I still go to the park every day. I know. Crazy.
XOXO
Hi baby.
ReplyDeleteXO
Stay off that damn leg!
ReplyDeleteBob. You a comedian?
ReplyDeleteKylie,
ReplyDeleteYou're killing me. Bras, bras, bras.
XO
Like I wrote earlier...
ReplyDeleteThat's me, funny and funny looking.